Marble Jar Friends Brene

The marble jar integration idea to create safe and brave spaces of belonging we need to commit to doing our work before we do the work and to working within our scope and skill.

Marble jar friends brene.

In her book daring greatly brené talks about marble jar friends. When we were elementary school aged many of us were open books who shared everything with our friends. Her mother brene responds trust is like a marble jar. Some teachers use a marble jar with their class as an incentive for good behavior.

You also remove marbles when someone betrays your trust. You share those hard things happening to you to friends who have over time filled up your marble jar. Who you know you can trust and tell difficult things to. If they re making not great choices the teacher takes out marbles.

I ve got marble jar friends brené brown daring greatly. She tells a great story of her daughter s teacher who kept a jar in the classroom and each time the class did something positive a marble went in the jar. And the marble jar in the classroom is a jar where if the kids are making great choices together the teacher adds marbles. When the class behaves and works hard the teacher adds a marble to the jar.

We use the marble jar as a metaphor for teaching that trust is built slowly over time and in small moments. You only need a few marble jar friends. Marble jars in terms of friends and trust aren t something you discuss just what comes naturally. Building marble jar friendships is important because someday we may be flat on our backs needing help and we will want to call on someone we can really trust.

Everyone has different criteria for their marble jars. Marble jar people i e. What is a marble jar. And if the jar gets filled up there s a celebration for the class.

Family friends in my life include people build trust with me through through investigating and writing about trust further i now understand why i felt uncomfortable in this situation and will be able to explain it more clearly in the future.